At times, survivors may be their own worst enemy. We riddle ourselves with doubts, constantly questioning whether or not we are good enough – as parents, partners, human beings – and determine our accomplishments to be irrelevant. Some aren’t cautious enough with the empathic residue left by their abuse, and find themselves unable to recognize when they are being used or further abused. At times we self-sabotage because there is no fear greater than the unknown, and for many of us, our wires misfired on the way to building happiness and aspirations, creating uncomfortable, sometimes unbearable feelings in the presence of simple joys and accomplishments.
Two of the most brutal side effects of childhood traumas in adulthood are self doubt and lack of self value. In order to combat the often self notion that you aren’t deserving of the recognition of what you have overcome and accomplished, Trigger Points is re-igniting the Survivors Empowering Survivors series, and are currently seeking submissions for guest posts.
Our intention with this series is to offer a platform to which survivors can proudly speak about achievements – big and small. We’re looking to inspire and educate readers by introducing them to the difference you are making in your day to day, or how you are contributing to cultural change. Especially, as it pertains to parenting as a survivor.
We want to hear about:
- A book you’ve published, are working on, or took part in as a contributor.
- A recovery-focused workshop, class, center, non-for-profit or conference you contributed to or helped create.
- A service you provide specifically for parenting survivors.
- Your experience speaking or teaching on the topic of parenting as a survivor.
Other stories we are interested in:
- A discussion you’ve had with your child(ren) about your abuse.
- How you’ve found a way to channel your recovery in a healthy, productive way, such as creative arts.
- A trigger you have experienced that you are struggling with; one you may or may not have learned to manage yet.
- Your reaction to reading the Trigger Points Anthology and the impact it left on you.
- An essay you have written based on one of the journal prompts from the Trigger Points Anthology.
If you have an idea based on something other than what is listed here, we encourage you to reach out to us.
If you want to get a better idea of what the Survivors Empowering Survivors series is all about, check out these previously included essays:
“This collision between my work as an abuse counselor and my work as a birth worker who had indirectly referred a “woman in need” to an inexperienced doula, is what changed everything for me, laying the foundation for A Safe Passage.” ~My Worlds Collided.by Jodi Hall
“Many survivors “know” that being sexually assaulted was not their fault. Now, I’m one of them. But the question I’ve worked to answer after a decade of healing and processing what happened to me is, “Well, then why didn’t I do something?” ~The Freeze Response: How a Warrior Handles the Trauma of Sexual Assault by Amy Oestreicher
“If I was having a hard time and needed help, it didn’t mean anything other than that. If I was soaring and taking on the world, I still had nothing to prove. I was just as worthwhile, sitting alone in yana mudra in my apartment as I was putting on a symposium.” ~Just Breathing, I Was Enough. by Anika Tilland-Stafford
“After years of struggling and feeling no one understood us survivors, I determined that the only way to create change was to start our own organization. So, I announced at a particularly irritating health professionals meeting that I would start our own organization which would truly present the survivors view of what we need in order to heal and if anyone wanted to join me, to phone me.” ~We Just Have To Be Asked. by Liz Mullinar
**We prefer original essays tailored to the survivor community, which includes loved ones of survivors and those that are working with survivors on their recovery journey. However, we will absolutely consider previously published work. Please let us know if what you are submitting has been previously published, so we can offer proper credit.
**Send your essay in the body of an email to firstname.lastname@example.org, with SES Submission as the subject. Don’t forget to add a short bio (3 to 5 lines), including social media profile links, and a headshot if you would like. And send along an image to go with your essay if you have one you’d like to share.
We can’t wait to hear from you guys!
♥ Dawn & Joyelle