We are running an open call for submissions to guest post on the Trigger Points blog throughout the month of February, with the theme Survivors Empowering Survivors.
Our intention with this series is to engage the survivor community with stories written by survivors. We’re looking to inspire readers by introducing them to the difference you are making in your day to day, or on a larger scale. Especially, as it pertains to parenting as a survivor.
We want to hear about:
- A book you’ve written or are working on.
- A workshop, class, center, non-for-profit or conference you created or helped create.
- Your experience speaking or teaching on the topic.
Other stories we are interested in:
- A discussion you’ve had with your child(ren) about your abuse.
- You’ve found a way to channel your recovery in a healthy, challenging way i.e. running, creative arts.
- A therapeutic model you have used that has positively (or negatively) affected your recovery i.e. EFT, EMDR, CBT, DBT
- A trigger you have experienced that you are struggling with; one you may or may not have learned to manage yet.
- Your reaction to reading the Trigger Points Anthology and the impact it left on you.
- An essay you have written based on one of the journal prompts from the Trigger Points Anthology.
If you have an idea based on something other than what is listed here, we encourage you to reach out to us.
We prefer original essays tailored to the survivor community, which includes loved ones of survivors and those that are working with survivors on their recovery journey. However, we will consider previously published work. Please let us know if what you are submitting has been previously published.
We will be accepting essays until February 7th. Send your essay in the body of an email to firstname.lastname@example.org, with guest post submission as the subject. Don’t forget to add a short bio (3 to 5 lines) with a headshot if you would like. And send along an image to go with your essay if you have one.
We want this to be an opportunity to relate, engage, learn and teach within the survivor community.
We can’t wait to hear from you guys!
♥ Dawn & Joyelle
Welcome to our new interview series where we get to introduce you to the Trigger Points contributors.
Our first interview is with Nikki Patrick, author of Taking Back What is Mine.
1. What was the most surprising thing about becoming a parent?
The most surprising thing for me has been how much having children of my own has helped to heal old wounds from my childhood. Giving my children the things all children should have and watching them grow into secure and independent little beings has been so empowering to me, and allowed me to really come to terms with all that I didn’t have.
2. Tell us about one of your proudest parenting moments.
My proudest parenting moment came several weeks ago in the grocery store parking lot. The sun was shining, the air was warm, and we were having one of those days where you just really feel like you are doing a great job at this parenting thing. My daughter looked up at me and without missing a step said, “I love you mommy, you are my best friend.” I felt such pride and joy. Pride that I am raising such a healthy happy kiddo and joy that I even have the ability to do so.
3. Was it difficult for you to participate in this project? What strength did you pull from to get past the fear and contribute?
No, I had no difficulty participating. I have found that being open and honest about my experiences has been very healing and helpful on my journey. I pull strength from other survivors who reach out to me and tell me they’ve been there; they can relate.
4. Do you believe participating in the project has changed you in any way? If so, how?
I believe it has changed me in that it renewed my desire to connect with and be a resource for other parent survivors. Parenting as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse is such a unique experience. This project has affirmed that there is a huge community of us. We can be such a great source of support and help.
5. What is the greatest lesson you have learned from your children?
My children have taught me what love really looks like. There are no expectations, no conditions. There is forgiveness. There is security. Each day they teach me to love, to feel joy in every moment, and what childhood should and can look like.
6. When you are not writing or parenting, what do you love to do?
I enjoy spending time with my husband, watching mindless t.v. shows, and occasionally going for a run. I am also a volunteer Babywearing educator and enjoy helping other caregivers bond with their babies.
When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, breastfeeding her was the furthest thing from my realm of possibility. I couldn’t imagine nourishing my child from my breasts, which I considered dirty because that is what I had been taught. Also, the idea of someone having on demand access to this private part of my body sent me back to being 8 years old and not able to say no. The idea horrified me and I decided that formula was the way for me.
Taking Back What is Mine
Trigger Points: Abuse Survivors Experiences of Parenting
Nikki is a 31 year old living in the suburbs of Chicago. She is married to her amazing husband, Josh, and they have 2 beautiful children, Grace (2.5) and Brendan (9 months). She is a stay at home mom with dreams of becoming a motivational speaker. The first 18 years of her life were littered with abuse, abandonment, neglect, and pain. She has used her experiences to create the life she always dreamed she would have and write her new story from here on out.
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